I haven't been to this forum for awhile and I am so sad to see your post. I just am so sorry. You took such good and loving care of your husband, he was blessed to have you in his life. I wish you peace and comfort from your daughters.

Dear Joyce, I'm very saddened by your post. I new this day would eventually come for you, as it will for all of us caregivers, but I didn't expect it so soon ... I'm so very sorry for your loss, and I hope you find consolation comfort during this time of grieving. Wishing you strength throughout these days. We're all here for you!

Oh Joyce...my heart stopped when I saw this post. I am so very sorry. I can't even hold back the tears. God bless you for everything you've done for Bill.

Been thinking of you today and just wanted to stop in and send my love.

I don't really know you, but I'm so sorry. *hugs*

Everyone is still sleeping so I'm sitting here and writing by the light of the computer.

The services are over and now the hard part of going on will start. The girls and their families along with my two sisters and a nephew are still here. One sister and her son will leave today, not sure about my other sister.
The girls and SILs all took the week off work and will stay for a few more days.
Hopefully wel will get the insurance and bank work taken care of before they leave. I think, right now, the only thing other than insurance is getting Bill's IRAs rolled over. Everything else was switched a long time ago into my living trust.
We will go today and get the marker and start on thank you cards.

The day was beautiful yesterday. Not a lot of wind and the sun was shinning brighty. God was sur happy to have Bill come home to Him. Services at the cemetery were held in the chapel. That was a hard part. Especially when the presented me with the flag.
I was both shocked and surprised to see friends of the girls that use to come over to our house at the funeral. Two of them had flew in from Calif. and Kent. just to see "Dad". Also former students and teacher's aide that saw the notice in the paper.

I was so proud of our kids and grandkids. They were all close but they gave me my space. I did have to be careful because everytime I turned around our grandson was right there. He didn't get too far from me except to go downstairs at the funeral home to get something to eat. And at almost fifteen and 6' 3" believe me he can eat. He ask me at one point if I wanted to go with him to eat something I ask if his mom or dad told him to ask me and he said no. He thought I just needed to eat something. Although I had no problem telling the kids no, I couldn't say no to him. I went down with him and had a bite of his sandwich

Two of the girls spoke at the scripture reading It was hard to watch them struggle to say what they wanted to say about their dad. I wanted to go up there and hold them. The third daughter said after that she didn't know they were going to do that and because she didn't do it she was going to have to stand up during the luncheon and sing "I Want a Girl, Just Like the Girl that married dear old dad" Only she would have to sing her dad's version which was " I Want a Beer".

I just keep going on and on, you will all fall asleep if I don't stop But before I do. I ask at the funeral home about listing alzheimers as the cause of death. They told me that was up to the doctor and I should call hospice and tell/ask them. Instead I called our doctor on his cell phone and talked to him. He told me that he was out of town but that he would call his associate and tell him. Then he added that out of town was that he was in Jordan. Tues morning his nurse called me and told me that the doctor had called and told them what he wanted and for them to make sure to call me and see if I needed anything to help me through the next few days. I told her no but if I felt like I did later, I'd let her know.

We picked up the death certificate after the luncheon yesterday and cause of death was listed as
dementia/alzheimers type

I hear my sister moving around so I will stop , about time isn't it, We'll have a cup of tea before the crown starts moving.

Thank you everyone. I can't go too far for too long because this is where I feel safe.

Believe me, Joyce, we are hanging on your every word, even us strangers. I've thought of you so often through these days and continue to pray God gives you strength and peace, moment by moment.

Joyce,

The service's for Bill sound like they were beautiful. It was wonderful that your daughters were able to eulogize Bill. How difficult that must have been for them. Wish I could have been there to hear your other daughter sing. Bill I'm sure was laughing away!

What a wonderful family and friend support you have. You and Bill were very special and I can see why everyone came and took care of you and worried about your well being.

We never think of you as going on and on Joyce. We love to hear from you. You have given us the pleasure always of your beautiful love story between you and Bill, and we treasure all that you tell us. Please whenever you feel like it, come and tell us more. We are still and always will be here for you my friend.

Take care and waiting anxiously to see you soon

Jackie

Good morning Joyce,
I just needed to come in today, and see how things went for you. The service does sound like it went nicely. When you first started writing about your Grandson, I thought you were going to say he was a toddler! LOL LOL What a sweetheart! He loves his Grandmom for sure! It is soooo strengthening to have Family support. I have been in both worlds, and that is best, by far. Bless all your Children. That says alot about you, too, Mom.
Love and thoghts and prayers,

Joyce,
I'm thinking of you and your family in these next days, weeks and months ahead as well as the seconds, minutes and hours of the day. Thank you for keeping us updated on the funeral arrangements. I would love to read the obit.
Take care, Cherie

Oh my dearest Joyce,

I haven't been on for days and days and I sit here reading your posts bawling my head off, I'm just so sorry about your dear Bill. I loved him because you loved him and spoke so highly of him. I told the children when they asked why I was crying that Bill died, he was the man who was Joyce's Knight in Shining Armour. Then I laughed my head off when you told about your daughter singing the song about him wanting a beer, what a dear man he was. I haven't gotten to read about your 2 weeks with him, I will later, but I am thankful to hear they were good times, what a blessing from God to have those precious memories. It was wonderful to hear about your tall, sweet grandson being such a dear and staying close to you, you are a blessed woman.

Joyce, you are loved and thought of more than you know. I wish I could be there to hug on you, but it sounds like you have lots of that with your sweet family.

Much love to you,

~Kelly~

I'm still holding you close to my heart.
I'm sure you are in that numb stage right now, not quite knowing what to do with yourself. I'm glad you are surrounded by family. Wish we could all be there in person for you.

Surrounded by family but finding myself wanting to say don't wake up Dad. Or wondering who will stay with Bill while I go out. Home Care came by this afternoon to pick up the hospital equipment. It was hard to see it go.

I am imagining myself in your shoes, I can imagine about the bed, it's hard to see it come in and harder to see it go. I thought about how nice the weather was yesterday and was glad that it was about as nice as it could be in February.

Anytime you want to come here day or night, we are here for you.