I don't remember seeing Diana posting here, but I know many of you know her. I just read in the AA forum that her Husband passed away early this morning. Here is a link to her thread:

http://alzheimers.infopop.cc/eve/forums ... 2#71410692

I've been reading Diana's posting and I know her husband has been having a bad time lately. That doesn't make losing a LO any easier.
Thanks for the up, Maebee.

I too have been keeping up with her on the other board. What a shock this was!

I still lurk on the old board and have been reading her posts about her DH. She has been through so much with him. She posted here a few times, I believe.

Absloutely! What a shame! I didn't realize he was that far along? When I met Diana, three or so years ago, she already was visiting her Dad, in a Nursing home, with AD, and she suspected her husband had it too. What a awful lot to deal with. She needs a medal, and will need a lot of suport.

Thank-You for posting this Maebee. I left her a note on the other board. As you can imagine, she will have a lot of reading to do, when she finally makes it back. She was, and is, one of the originals. One of the first people I met, when starting my own journey, along with Twice Blessed, and Mum. So very very sad.

It doesn't seem fair, for one person to have to bare so much pain, and one right after the other. First her Dad, and then her Husband. I can not even imagine, how heart-breaking that was for her.

I was hesitant to bring the information here, because of what happened previously, but I know that some of you don't go to that forum anymore, and I wasn't sure if Diana was here, or not. She is certainly special.

I remember reading Diana's post when I first joined and thinking how do people handle this when they have young children. She has had a rough time.

I'm glad you let us know.

Hello Friends.

Thank you all for your kind messages for the kids and I. It is 5 days now, but of course we are still numb. Realizations come in waves. What I think makes it more difficult to "realize/accept" is that we had not seen Paul for a full week, because he was admitted to a Gero-Psych unit for medication adjustment. It was 115 miles away and with school we couldn't go up during the week. We planned to see him Saturday, and head out early......but that final call came just after 4:35 a.m.

Paul wanted cremation, and felt funerals were for the living. He's right. Although I initially wanted just cremation, and have a private family celebration of life our two girls feel a small memorial now will help them with closure. They each wanted to see him privately, and then have a simple memorial after his cremation. To coordinate all of that his daughter will fly in next Thursday. We will have a viewing Friday morning. Cremation will be Friday afternoon, and his ashes will be ready for us to have a memorial service Saturday afternoon.

I am from Santa Barbara, and Paul lived and worked there for over 30 years. It's where all our kids were born (his, mine, and ours), and where we married and had our first home together. Everyone in the family says we know Santa Barbara is where he would want to be. I have ordered memento (tiny) urns for all of his children so they each will have a tiny bit of his ashes no matter where they live. Come summer we plan to caravan with some other family members and "Take him home." His urn is engraved with birds in flight, and the pattern is titled "GOING HOME."

(PS, I tried in the past to change my screen name back to New Realm on this forum, but the software didn't let me).

Diana, it's so good to hear from you. Your plans to take Paul "home" sound absolutely beautiful. I know the days and months ahead will be hard for you and the kids. There is nothing that any of us can say to ease that pain but just know that we are always here for you.

what a beautiful tribute to your husband....my sympathies for you and your family....

God bless you all

karen

I'm glad to see you here Diana.
It will be four weeks this Sat. that my husband Bill passed. I still can't believe he's really gone. My thoughts are with you.

Dear Diana,

I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your husband. What a shock for it to happen the way it did. I pray that you and your children are able to go on from this point on, keeping only the good memories of him in your hearts.

I'm sorry to hear of your husband's passing. I'm praying for you and yours!

Kat

Thank you, Diana, for checking in and letting us know how things are going for you.
We'll leave the coffee pot on for ya.