Thank you Ladies!

Jackie, the hyperbaric Chamber is what they use for divers who got the bends. It's not just her foot that goes in there, but her entire body to get additional oxygen into her blood which will increase circulation. So, please keep your fingers ( and toes) crossed that she qualifies for this treatment! I had to reschedule for next Tuesday as they had to restart her PIKK IV this morning and I couldn't take her to the Wound Care clinic for her evaluation for the Hyperberic Chamber. Oh well. . .

As for what she says, I have to think "What's happened to upset her so to make her think she is in jail?" And even though they have AD, it doesn't mean that they have don't moments of clarity that comes through and their real feelings also show themselves. Even though those feelings may be short lived, they are real and it hurts me to the core to know she feels that way or WHY she feels that way?? I know that each time I go to the NH, the halls are lined with patients with missling limbs, crippled, drooling and slimped over in their wheel chairs. I had to fight this one woman to let go of my mother's wheel chair as I was pushing her through the security doors from the AD ward. Two nurses had to pry her hands off the handles as she was trying to escape from the AD ward!! I didn't try to remove her hands in fear of her either biting or hitting me! Very sad!! So, I guess with her seeing that. . and who knows. . perhaps they yelled at her for removing her IV. . .or what trauma she suffered whether physically or emotionally thinking they were trying to hurt her! It just kills me. . .and I know. . it has to be SO scary for her not knowing what is going on and feeling so lost! God love her heart!!

And to make matters worse. . .I can't even complain about these things to my sisters because they say: "Well, this is what you wanted, Connie when you were trying to rescue Mom"! "You wanted to take care of Mom and this is what you get!!" HOW DARE THEY!! My response is I would suffer a thousand knives and would do it over and over again to save our Mother! They JUST DON'T GET IT! She would be DEAD by now if I didn't fight for her life! But. . .as they sit on their Royal cushy BUMS (. . .I prefer another 4-letter word!! lol!) in their comfy homes. . .not moving a muscle or contributing one iota to helping her financially. . .they can feel content in just knowing I am taking care of her and their hands are clean! GRRRRRRRRRR!!

Thanks for letting me vent. . .my wonderful "extended family"! Ya'll are the BEST!!

Connie

Connie, your sister's additudes just make my blood boil.
I won't say anymore than that as it would probably have to be censored.

LOL! I love you Lori! I need you are in my corner! Thank God you're there!

Actually, Lori, since you're one of the censors (moderators),
let 'er rip!

OK Connie, Carol says I can so here goes. Where were your sisters when mom was living in that hell? I would say they were sitting on their asses but that is hard to do when they have their head up them. It is time they get off their butts and step up to the plate. This is real life and it is often messy and they need to get their heads out of the sand and face their responsibilities. This is their mother too!!!!! When did someone crown them princesses?!

I have found that there are two types of people in this world, the selfish and the self sacrificing. I know which type I want to be and which type I want to be around. Who will reach out to your sisters when they need help, when they have been unwilling to reach out to their own mother. I suppose they would have been just fine if mom had been left in that awful situation.

What goes around, comes around. Enough said.

Well Lori. . .I can tell it took a LOT of restraint to say what you did! Trust me. . .words that would have made a sailor proud have many times flown out of my mouth!! But WELL SAID! lol!

Trust me, during those 4 years of battling ESF, my sisters stood by, reluctant to help and many - MANY times, they just about called me "CRAZY" for thinking that Mom was being abused! I believe they thought I was "exagerting the situation"! My younger brother (3 yrs younger - living in Milton, FL) was a "fence sitter" - but leaning towards my side but wasn't sure of my interfering. My oldest brother (12 years older - living in Miami) was my sword weilder! A big guy that was ready to come up here and beat the S*!T out of ESF - but said I would have to promise to bail him out of jail! lol! HE was 100% supportive of me and would do anything I asked to help! My oldest sister (15 years older than me -living in Virginia) who had taken care of her own mother-in-law who also had AD and Also living in a NH - would say: "Mom is being fed and taken care of . . . .just leave "them" alone"!! My other sister (10 years older - living in Tampa - just two hours away - the NASTY ONE!) was the absolute WORSE! As she would come and go to see Mom - taking them "both" out to eat, she ALSO would turn her head to the abuse because of her own SELFISH need to remain in ESF's good graces and not get "banned" from Mom's life! As long as things were going "OK" as far as THEY were concerned - then they would worry about Mom "When and IF that time came"! YES! You betcha! Their heads were stuck WAY up their asses! (Thank you for allowing me to say that! lol!) Sister #2 and I weren't even speaking the last 6 months prior to my rescuing Mom. Her behavior was even worse considering she was a "woman of the cloth" and was a leader of a religeous group in Tampa! ANd I thought religeous leaders weren't supposed to be hypocritical?!!! Guess she was "above it"!! THEN. . .after I rescued MOM and they STILL didn't believe me until they got the doctors VERBAL report that Mom would have died within 3 weeks had I not stepped in. . YEP! THEY HAD TO HAVE VERBAL CONFIRMATION FROM THE DOC!! Talk about INSULTING?!!! They didn't BELIEVE ME?!!! WHAT THE HELL?? THEN after his verbal report to them. . .all of a sudden. . .these two sisters were suddenly appauled over the situation and said: "Well good thing the doctor put them in the hospital"!! NO "Thank you Connie for rescuing our mother!? NOTHING! I WAS LIVID! I wanted to yank their hair out of their skulls and say:

"WHERE THE HELL WERE YOU TWO THE PAST FOUR YEARS WHEN MOM WAS GOING THROUGH HELL AND YOU DIDN'T BELIEVE ME?" WHERE WAS HER SUPPORT? WHERE WAS MINE? AND WHY THE HELL SHOULD I ALLOW YOU TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER NOW - YOU B*!#@!S"!! BUT. . . .I have bit my tongue! But you KNOW I would LOVE to give them a piece of my mind!! I guess because in their minds - I was still their "little sister" and didn't have a brain in my head and they were "all knowing"!! During all this too, I felt that they also believed all the lies that ESF was telling them about me, too. I was out-numbered!

So, with all that, I STILL have a hard time being "nice" towards them. Yes. . .I still carry a grudge and probably shouldn't. Not the Christian way. So, I put on my "game face" and push forward for MOM! The next time my dear sisters need any help from me. . . .well. . .I just may not be available and say: "Are you sure you aren't confused."!! lol! But as you said: "What goes around, comes around" . . . .and I'm sure they will get theirs someday!

So, Lori . . .any time you want to "Let 'er rip" in defense of the defenseless. . . .GO FOR IT, girl friend! GO FOR IT!! LOL!

Connie and Lori,

You did my heart good getting so very angry and saying it like it is!! It's about time you two very calm and considerate people let this all out. Boy oh boy, would I have loved to hear you both in person! Always remember Connie, you will be able to live with yourself one day, they won't. You'll be able to sleep at night, they won't. And your Mom will always remember the name Connie to the very end, but not theirs!

And that will be the sadest thing of all. You've done good dear friend, and we're here to help in anyway we can. So if you don't want to get angry with them, let it all out here. WE do understand, as we all have been or are going through the same thing with family who will never get it!

take care my friend.

Jackie

Connie-&-Lori,
Honest words, from hearts of integrity, are nothing
to be ashamed of. Thank you for giving voice to
many others out there/here.
Carol

OK, I just have to say something about your sister being a "woman of the cloth". If you remember, Jesus was in the temple when he cast out an evil spirit. So yes, there are evil spirits even in churches and I guarantee you they are the ones you least expect.

Connie, you are a wonderful person for caring about your mom enough to save her! You have a good heart and that seperates you from alot of people in this world.

I honestly can't believe your siblings said that :/. I'm pretty much speechless on that attitude about their own mother.

Keep on rockin' and we're all here to support you!

Kat

Hugs and Hugs and Hugs to you Connie for all you have done and continue to do for your sweet mom! I cannot imagine how infuriating and frustrating it must be to deal with such selfish, self-centered, and *&&%!! sisters.
And you know, even if you did "let them have it", they STILL wouldn't get it, and would wonder what was wrong with YOU?!
And please forgive me for being critical, but what kind of woman of the cloth turns a blind eye to her suffering mother? I wouldn't want her for my spiritual leader.
Indeed, I truly believe in "what goes around comes around", and the wheel will go full circle for them.
In the meantime, please remember all you are doing for your mom, and thank God you are there for her.
More hugs........