Well she has been in the nursing home for a week now. First few days were the easiest. She now is always trying to stand or get out of bed alone. She has become very angry with us girls. We are the ones handling her trying to get up. We don't want her to fall. Therefore the staff doesn't see what she is doing. Last nite we decided that we would stay away until lunch, and if she is on one of her mean streaks we would leave. That way staff will see it and maybe just maybe she will get a lap belt to prevent her from getting up. We have asked them daily for one yet since they don't see it she is still without. None of us want her to fall or try to get up alone but they won't listen maybe if they see it themselves they will understand our concerns. It hurts bad today not to go see her this morning as I have done daily. I feel like I have deserted her. Hopefully this whole thing doesn't backfire.
Thanks to all that keep us in thier prayers

jstme,
They may not want to use any type of restraint since Mich. has pretty much gone to the no restrait thing. I think the only time they will use them is if all other means have been tried and the patient is in danger of hurting themself or others.

Let them sit with her and try to keep he calm and in bed.

No restraints is fine, but they have to provide other means of keeping her from trying to get up and hurt herself.

Bill is still at home, but I am having the same problem with him. Hospice brought in what the call a low boy bed.

Can't continue, social worker just got here. talk later

Good luck with your mother

Oh, jstme, I'm holding my breath for your Mom.
I imagine that while family is with her, the staff is
busy with other tasks and that you are right, if you
all aren't there so much, they will have to do the job.
I just hope it's a good place and they do it well.
May I make one small suggestion, and it may be
something you are already doing. Whenever a family
member leaves from a visit, perhaps they should be
sure to check in with at least one, preferably two of
the staff, so the staff knows your Mom is alone and
back on their watch.
Keeping you all in my prayers,
Carol

I finally remembered how to get back here! Mom has adjusted to the nursing home. She was always pretty content there. They did finally also use a seat belt for her own safety and pads on the floor next to her bed. She began hanging her head and slumping over to the point we just had to get her into a geri-chair. That chair was nothing we ever thought she would need but she was almost tipping over in her wheelchair. In the wheelchair with her head on her chest she started cheeking all her food, yet another bad situation. She basically has been refusing food for the past month. We do get her to drink some. They give her protein drinks and we also bring in milk shakes ect. Just the other day I was feeding her mixing her ice cream with her puree food and she was eating!!! I was so happy until she choked, gagged then turned colors. She finally threw it all up and more. So much for the excitement of her eating. She is declining so fast. I love all the people at the nursing home, the care she gets is just great. I do wish she was still home with us but know its just not possible. After 3 years of total care for her at home placing her I thought would be easier. I thought I would have a few extra minutes to get somethings done in my life, lol nope I didn't even get a few seconds.
I have now bookmarked the site so I don't forget again!

I'm glad the situation with your Mom is working itself out,
but sorry to hear about her decline. At least count yourselves
very lucky that she is in a good place!
All the best--
Carol