Hi Pat,
Welcome to our family. Please come here often and let us know what we can do. You'll love everyone on our forum. They have good advice, and also a great sense of humor. They make us laugh and cry and are always here when we need them.

Hoping to hear from you often.

Jackie

Welcome to Sherri and Pat.

Sherri, you are in good company as far as having sibs who won't/don't help. That seems to happen quite a lot. Both of you, please come and vent/share as much as you need. We are glad to have you.