My brother and sister in law came over today. After dinner, my brother and Mom went to go sit outside. My brother had told my mom that he may move to Indiana, as he has a summer home there. My husband was also outside. He (my husband) told me my Mom asked why he was going to sell his home here, and move there. He said he could no longer afford both, and his choice would be to move there.

Mom popped up and said to him, aren't you going to at least wait until I die before you do that?? My brother then asked her if she wanted to move their with him and my sister in law. She said no, she didn't, but that he should at least wait until she dies, and now she'll never see him if he moves.

With that, hubby came in the house as he figured he'd let them talk privately. Can you even imagine him asking her if she wanted to move in with them. God, I wish she had said yes, just to see what he would have said. My sister in law would have probably killed him.

Gee, sometimes they really do know how to answer the right way. I'm sure him asking her to move there with him was just for show in front of my husband. Believe me, it would never happen.

Jackie

I have to chuckle at this---really, your mom said exactly what I was thinking. My brother is like yours...very "involved" on the surface, but if you really look at the amount of time or tasks he does perform for her, well....it's really very little. I've accepted that this is what life holds for me right now (taking care of her) and that I will have the rest of my life to go wherever I want to go and this is the right thing to do. He, on the other hand, has not had any change in his life at all. Unless I call him (he lives about 20 mins away and is in our area all the time for work), he wouldn't call her for weeks at a time.

He actually had the nerve to gripe at me a week ago because "the relationship" my mom had with his son (grandma/grandson) is really not there anymore. Gee, sorry, she's not interested unless you work at getting her interest! Sorry she has dementia!

Jackie! GO MOM! I like the loose-lips that comes with Dementia!