As stated in my intro I had to put my Lo in the SNF unit 12/06. Since she has been there she has had pneumonia 3 times and she fell there and broke her leg.
Hospitalized 4 times in 10 months.
First problem she wants to come home. It is tearing me up. All I want to do is cry. Now that is not productive I know. Solves nothing. So I know my loved one very very well. I warned the SNF that it was all about to hit the fan. I could tell she has started stuttering when she talks. She took a while to decide what to say at all times to me. And always asked when she was coming home. Her diagnosis in May of 07 is 1) Alz dementia, mild with behavioral problems Generalized anxiety disorder
2) cluster b traits
3) chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, diabetes mellitus type II, (type I now), hypertension, diabetic neuropathy
4) Moderate medical problems
5) GAF 45
And she always has a UTI. Which I am calling about tomorrow.
I can not care for her at home to the level that she needs. But she will not let go of this. She calls me twice daily and is asking to go home. For me to come and get her. And the hardest thing she says is 'have I done something wrong tell me and we can fix it'. When she calls it is the same thing over and over and over. She is in a SNF 45 minutes from my home and they are really good to her there. She can not room with anyone and they have her in a private room and charge me for a semi private. They do not want to medicate her do to her above illnesses. But tonite she calls me screaming about her clothes that they have stolen that they are not responsible there and they need to pay her for her clothes. Her voice was very very hoarse sounding. Don't know how she could screatch that loud. Again for me to come and get her. And she says I have not seen you since my Bday. Not true. I make sure I go every week and I call daily. I wish I could go daily but I can not for multiple reasons. So the DON said this to will pass and for me to just not pay attention to her messages. But my heart just goes out to my LO and it tears me up. Wouldn't it be horrible to live like that. Can't they give her something that won't drug her but calm her down. She is on prosac and klonipin now. But I sure wouldn't want to be in that state of mind. Am I wrong here?
I keep telling the staff I want my LO bubble wrapped in charmin 2 inches thick! They tell me she smiles and laughs but she calls me mad is this a new stage? Or something????
And she never told tales with this until now. The psych went in on Tuesday and tried to explain to her why she could not come home. She calls me and says come and get me they released me to come home both doctors did. I call the Social Services lady and asked her how LO is and what is this permission to come home. She said Linda I was there and he did not tell her she could come home. LO said god is talking to her a lot lately and going to make her whole again or something like that. Anywho. I could ramble about this for hours. I am sure you have heard some of this if not all and a lot more. I know breathe. But it is so hard when your heart just aches. Oh and yes all this is usually in the evenings and she was on Geodon then seroquel and the psych took her off the seroquel Sept 17th.
I have DPOA and if I need to direct these professionals to do something in her best interest I figured you all would be the ones to ask.
Linda
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